How I Get Happy These Days!

Written by liztomey

Hey all! Just back from a 7 day vacation at the beach, and wanted to dive back into working by sharing some things I learned about being HAPPY while I was there…

Happiness is one thing that we never talk about when talking “online business” and I wont do it much, but I do want you to know that finding your “happy” is vital to running your online business for ultimate success.

When I’m happy I work better, I have better focus, and I get way more done… That equates to making more money FYI!

But… (of course there’s a but) keeping that level of happy can be hard sometimes, so it’s really important that you have things that keep you at a level of happy that allows you to excel the most.

So here are some things I use to keep my happy level pretty high to help me be at my best in running my online business.

1. Talk! One of the hardest things for me is to talk about anything that’s not a positive for me. It literally sucks the life out of me, but when I don’t talk about it I find that it actually makes it worse. If I just spit it out and get it over with instead of trying to hold on to it and deal with it myself I get through it quicker which makes my level of happiness return to normal pretty quickly. So have someone in your life be it a friend, partner, or even a professional that you can talk to about things.

I have very few of these people in my life, but they are really good for talking about things with. Mainly because they care about me and want to offer their support, but they are a big part in keeping me happy.

And contrary to popular belief it IS okay if people help your happy levels. I have heard for years from so many that you should never allow people to factor in your happiness. I call total BS on that. Yes people can walk in and out of your life in one way or another leaving you sad, but not allowing them to be part of your happy factor is not something you should do in my opinion.

Enjoy your people as long as they are in your life and allow them to help in making you happy! πŸ™‚

What’s effecting your happy level today? Who can you go to and talk about that with?

2. Be active! For years I had a real problem with being happy. I’ve been very open and honest about my past marriage and the fact that I wasn’t happy. It made me become VERY sedimentary, gain a bunch of weight, and start in on a horrible downward spiral of self loathe. The instant that I started walking, then running, then biking, and all of my other “active thingsI began to start feeling happy again.

I can be having a HORRIBLE day and after an hour or so on my bike I ALWAYS ALWAYS ALWAYS feel at the very least 50% better. Most of the time it’s 100%!

For example… It’s a rainy yucky day here, so as soon as I get done with this blog post I’m going to throw my Les Mills DVDs in and I’m going to sweat out the fact that I HATE this kind of weather and it influences my level of happiness. Once done I will feel SO SO SO much better!

Need a “happy boost”? Got 20-30 minutes? At least go take a walk!

3. Take a drive! Jumping in the car and listening to music at deafening levels is another thing that helps get me back to the level of happy I need to be at.

For example… The other day I was dealing with something pretty “heavy” that was really effecting my level of happy. I jumped in the car and within about an hour I was calm again. Another hour and I was finding some serious clarity. Now usually it doesn’t take a few hours of driving, but this was a BIG deal. Usually within about 30-45 minutes of a drive around town and I’m good. You don’t have to take a road trip for this to work for you. πŸ™‚

Driving and listening to music makes my brain stop. I’m having to concentrate on driving, the music floods my head, and with all of that I can usually only focus on one other thing which is the thing that is effecting my happiness. I’m able to remove all other distractions and work through whatever it is that is keeping me from the level of happy that I need to be at, and that helps me work through it.

If you have a bit of gas money in your pocket this is a super easy way to clear your mind QUICKLY!

4. Educate others! If you have an online business there is something you can always do to educate people in your niche. Maybe creating a video tutorial on a topic in your niche, creating a blog post, making a Facebook post, etc.

Here’s another example… This blog post you’re reading. I’m feeling a little less happy today than I want to. I’m just coming back from vacation and already miss the beach and other stuff. So instead of letting that consume me I decided to think about the things that makes me happy and go do them. Educating others ALWAYS helps with my happy levels.

What’s one thing you could share right now that would help people in your niche? Go talk about it in some way, and you’ll see your focus shift, you’ll provide value, and your level of happy will totally go up!

5. Set And Meet Goals! In the last year and a half I have come a VERY VERY VERY long way. I went from a miserable basically non-functioning human to being able to stand on my own two feet and LOVE life. I did that by setting and meeting goals.

And just because I’m at a good place in life doesn’t mean that I don’t need to STOP setting and meeting my goals. It’s all about moving forward and I want certain things in my life.

For example… I’ll be making a big move in the next few months. I’ve talked about the beach for YEARS, and over the last year I have found an opportunity to be near the beach fulltime. Yes by picking up and moving there. But I have to set and meet goals to be able to do that.

By setting and meeting goals to do that it’s REALLY helping my happy levels because I know being near the beach will REALLY up my happy level. It’s also a goal I’ve had for a while and meeting that goal will totally make me happy for like a million years. πŸ™‚

What do you want right now? What goals can you set and start working to meet right NOW?

Okay so obviously I’m not a “professional” and the advice I just gave you may NOT be good for you, but it’s what keeps me at my ultimate levels of happiness which really is vital to my success. Do you have other ways that help you get happy? Leave your comments below… Your input could really help someone with their “happy journey“.

Here’s to wishing you a healthy, happy, and wealthy life!

About the author

liztomey

Liz's Motto: Let's all get healthy, happy, and wealthy!

Liz Tomey is a crazy redhead with an entrepreneurial spirit that shines out in everything she does. Her teachings have helped many create online businesses that fund the extraordinary lives they love. Since 2004 Liz has created and successfully ran many different online businesses in several different niches and shares her passion for online business in hopes to change the lives of those who are searching for a life they truly want to live!

"Her magnetic personality, her vast knowledge for online business, and her vibrant passion for your success will put you on the right path to living the life of your dreams." - Redmond Lawthorne

10 Comments

  • Nice post. Everyone gets down in the dumps some time. The thing that ALWAYS works for me (IF I can remember to do it) is to 1) Step back, 2) Look at the big picture, and 3) Remind myself of how blessed I am and ALL of the things I am truly thankful for. Works every time!

    Oh – and if I do not remember to do it, my sweet best-friend wife will give me a swift kick in the pants to remind me πŸ™‚

  • What a great post Liz!

    I picked up one tip from you which is great for me. I’m retired and live in sunny San Diego. I’ve always been teased by family and friends for being a “sun worshiper.” I NEED sunshine!

    So I always look forward to dumb little errands that get me out of the house and into the glorious sunshine. Lately I’ve been thinking, “wouldn’t it be nice to just get in the car and go somewhere?” But I thought it would be a silly waste of time.

    When I read your suggestion about getting in the car and just going for a drive to feel better, I thought, OMG this not dumb at all… Liz is recommending it!

    So I plan to get some driving time in the sunshine on a regular basis… I’ll have to put it on my To-Do list to make sure I don’t put it off… You have no idea how much my “happy” will increase by doing this.

    Thank you Liz for this wonderful post… and there are several other items in your post that I know I can use.

    I live by this quote from Albert Schweitzer:

    β€œSuccess is not the key to happiness. Happiness is the key to success. If you love what you are doing, you will be successful.”

    Juan

    • Wonderful Juan! So glad to hear that. Just getting in the car and going somewhere is never a stupid idea and I cannot tell you how many times it’s helped me find some serious sanity!

  • Great post Liz! I’m happy to hear you’re working toward making your beach dream come true. You so deserve it.
    When I’m floundering, pretty much the one thing that can snap me out of anything .. is a Pie Night with my family.
    Pie Night is Girl Time for all the Women in the family. If someone is having a rough time, they call a sister. We set a place and time and make phone calls. Everyone who can, brings a pie or any kind of dessert and we have Sistah face time. Significant others and kids can come too, but when the girls get to talking, the guys have to vacate and go to other rooms. We’ve been doing this since around 1988 or thereabouts and it works for me every time πŸ™‚

    • Oh Robin I LOVE this!!!! What a wonderful idea! My BFF is having a real hard time with the though of me moving and this might be a great thing for us to do! Thank you soooo much Robin!

  • Awesome post, as always!

    Finally, a marketer who is willing to discuss real life issues that we all have in our online (and offline) lives. It’s not always about traffic, conversion and ROI.

    Thanks for being you. πŸ™‚

    • Thanks Keith! πŸ˜‰ Really appreciate that… I don’t normally talk non-biz stuff, but I know there have been many times that if I didn’t have certain “outlets” I’d never be where I am today. Hopefully stuff like this from time to time can help others. πŸ™‚

  • Hi Liz,

    Yep, I have found that for me just getting out of the house and walking or even just strolling around can lighten the Gloom Load.

    The Beach sound great. Did you know that something in the Salty Beach air is a positive for your body? I forget all the tech stuff for it, but it is definitely healing.
    Ah found it at the Daily Mail in the UK
    Sea air is charged with healthy negative ions that accelerate our ability to absorb oxygen. … Which is why after a holiday you feel more alert, relaxed and energised. … http://www.dailymail.co.uk/health/article-102698/Three-health-benefits-sea.html

    • The beach has more healing properties than anyone can even begin to imagine. πŸ™‚ It always makes me feel fulfilled when I’m there. If there’s something I feel missing a bit I can go to the beach and somehow the “holes” get filled in. πŸ™‚

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